Stories on Depression: Your Experience as an Anxious Person is Just as Valid as Theirs
anxiety, the mental health narrative that doesn’t get talked about
have you ever tried telling someone that your anxiety might not be compatible with theirs and the first thing it made them feel was personally attacked? either they’re unmitigatedly self-absorbed or they simply lack the mental strength to see beyond themselves enough to not invalidate your experience as someone who also lives and struggles with anxiety on a daily basis. you want to believe that the latter is more realistic but the truth is, not everyone is selflessly capable of understanding, let alone respecting and honouring, the significance of you setting healthy boundaries.
the answer is simple.
your new parameters don’t align with their huffy agenda or the entitled feelings associated with them having complete access to you and in addition to being a common toxic trait, people hardly hold themselves accountable enough for, emotional manipulation is real.
sometimes you’re going to feel small before you’re heard.
sometimes you’re going to feel small before you’re felt.
sometimes you’re going to feel small before you’re seen.
to those living with anxiety who only acknowledge what someone else may be going through inside their mind when it serves them:
caring about your fellow anxious people is not forcing them to endure the incessantly chaotic details of your life with very little consideration for how your lack of organization and focus affects them. just because you’ve grown accustomed to their world revolving around yours doesn’t mean you’re entitled to them showing up for you in a way that not only consequently drains them but one you’ve never reciprocated.
it is also not pompously discarding them when they shift away from your norm to prioritize what makes them navigate their own mental health challenges more comfortably.
and stop monopolizing conversations with your own convenient personal development epiphanies in the brave moments they wished you knew how difficult and exhausting you make it for them to share. the gaslighting, too.
that’s not growth.
these are all the ways you’ve taken their experience as an anxious person and made it about you.
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